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The National AIDS Memorial Grove
by Jack Becker









All images courtesy of Jack Becker
Location: San Francisco

Date: 1996

Site: A large secluded area in Golden Gate Park, formerly abandoned due to budget cuts at the park board. The old grove, plagued by drainage problems, could not be maintained. The memorial is referred to as a "living memorial."

Funding: Over $200,000 has been raised so far as well as countless hours of volunteer time and material donations.

History & Description: A group formed to reclaim the site and use it as the AIDS Memorial Grove (it later received National status from the US Park Service). The memorial itself was designed through group charrettes (design brainstorming sessions) and without a designer's name attached to its creation, The Grove creates a sense of seclusion in an otherwise busy park surrounding, and as a sunken space, literally removes any references to its urban environment. It is laid out with generous areas for paths, clearings, a circular plaza, a dry stream bed, and lots of plants, stones, and benches.

Names are used throughout the site, paid for and defined by patrons or contributors. Most of the names are of people being remembered, however, some names are of donors While the names of the many people who originated the project and those who monthly volunteer to maintain the site are not displayed, the names of sponsors are clearly and professional engraved on each major boulder, bench, and section of the Grove. The Circle of Friends stone plaza includes names inscribed in large rings as funds are raised to pay for each couple of rings- until, they expect one day, they will have raised enough to pay for everything; which is how the size of the circular plaza was determined.

It was not clear to me on my first trip to the site (soon after construction in 1996) that the names in the circle were sponsored and not necessarily the name of individuals lost to AIDS. When it was explained to me later, I admit I was somewhat disappointed, since I had felt lured into mourning all the names I was reading (the title, "Circle of Friends," apparently has a double meaning). Indeed, the AIDS Memorial Grove is a sponsored space, and it became clear to me that the names throughout were listed as a way for each individual or group to remember a friend, relative, or lover. The size of the Grove is an advantage itself, it provides a forum big enough for people to find (or sponsor) a "piece of the site" for themselves.

Perhaps more significant is the role volunteers play in the care and maintenance of the site, since it is an evolving green space, a lush one that is in need of lots of attention. (NAMG recently resolved a decades-old drainage problem that left a seasonal moat in the middle of the site; and recently lost several old growth trees due to storms and old age). The monthly work crews, sometimes as many as 100 strong, work under the supervision of a parks maintenance director. This kind of working together builds a stronger community of people who are linked via the site and a common goal. This underscores the true role of memorials; they are for the living. They help us get on with our lives and face our own mortality.

I asked about artwork being included in the site, a goal of the group several years ago. The effort was stalled by more pressing issues of site development and maintenance, and it may be put off for several years.

Over the next few years, a $2 million endowment is an ambitious goal of the AIDS Memorial Grove organization. Since it was established to create a city memorial, not run it indefinitely, the endowment-when it is raised-will provide enough interest to fund a full time city park staff person devoted to the site.

During my visit last August, there was a druid monk playing a lute, chanting with bells and arranging offerings to the birds. The water sprinklers were busy feeding the lush vegetation. My tour guide, director Lance Varholdt, brought graffiti-cleaning supplies with him (several of the benches had been tagged. It was not malicious, he stated, just a hassle to clean up.

AIDS Memorials - Index

Key West AIDS Memorial
Minneapolis/Loring Park
New Jersey
AIDS Monument 2000
National AIDS Memorial
National AIDS Memorial Grove
The Garden (Proposal)
Toronto AIDS Memorial
NAMES Project AIDS Memorial Quilt